Send a message to the person who requested a photo of the grave monument of Joseph Lamb Hicks with the following comment:
I am working on my family genealogy, and Joseph Lamb Hicks is my maternal 1st cousin 4x removed. I would appreciate the photos so I can see what other information might be inscribed on the headstone. I understand from personal experience how you feel about acknowledgement. Please let me know how you would like to be cited in my genealogical records as a much appreciated source.