Send a message to the person who requested a photo of the grave monument of Frank T Proctor with the following comment:
This is the husband of my husband's cousin. I am researching his family tree. I have a very large tree on Ancestry.com. Thank you in advance for taking the time to post his and send it. I know how much work goes into doing this. I have gone to cemeteries and photographed many stones for my ancestral tree.